Dating a divorced woman without kids
Never use your kids as an excuse, unless you simply need an excuse.
As a single dad, I do understand that my kids are a priority. But kids can be used as an unhealthy defense mechanism as well.
The issue is about MY management of MY relationship to my kids and my ex-wife and HER. With a single mom as a date, I know that she will understand when the kids trump our plans.
However, with a date who is not a single mom, the same rule applies.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still in pre-college school, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there is my response and my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that must be understood and enforced as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids… Let’s take this from the perspective of a FIRST DATE, rather than a developing relationship.
In a first date, you are trying to make an impression.