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Not someone who likes us because of our body, not someone who likes us in spite of our body. We worry if your parents are going to tell you ‘you can do better.’Any time you think it’s hard for you, remember it’s a lot harder for us.
I mentioned that most of us have had bad experiences, being the ‘secret’ lover, not ever getting to meet a guy’s friends, and it’s really quite painfully true. There are lots of folks out there who hate fat people.
I’ve seen so many opening lines, especially on dating sites, along the lines of Here’s the thing. You probably think that it’ll make fat girls more likely to contact you first, but honestly it’s hurting your cause more than anything. *(Note, saying things like ‘real women have curves’, ‘only dogs like bones’, ‘skinny girls are gross’ are horrible things to say. We’re real people with real personalities and feelings. Again, can’t speak for all fat girls, but lots of us have had a lot of bad experiences when it comes to dating.The first message I got was a couple trying to have me as their third, as in third wheel, as in a threesome. The following messages would start off with men requesting that I ‘sit on their face’. They’d make disgusting comments about my hips and butt. I was also fat-shamed by angry users who I wasn’t interested in.Some of the white dudes, especially, would objectify my Black body, highlighting the size of my lips and what they’d do to them. I would tell my smaller friends who were using the same dating apps my stories.The fact that I have to add this piece of advice kind of makes me sad, but I feel it’s important. The vitriol some people have for others based purely on body size can be quite frightening. But the truth is, fat is one of those defining features that can’t really be ignored.A lot of times when a fat girl is out with a guy in public, people assume that they’re ‘just friends.’ There’s such a stigma out there that fat girls never get the guy. Understand that us ladies live in a culture where every magazine, every commercial, every ad is telling us that our bodies are wrong. It’s not who a person is, but you can’t ignore it either.